What Makes NARM® Different from Other Therapies
When most people think of therapy, they imagine talking about the past, analyzing childhood memories, or learning coping skills to manage symptoms. While these approaches can be helpful, many find themselves repeating the same patterns despite years of effort. This is where the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM®) offers something profoundly different.
When most people think of therapy, they imagine talking about the past, analyzing childhood memories, or learning coping skills to manage symptoms. While these approaches can be helpful, many find themselves repeating the same patterns despite years of effort. This is where the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM®) offers something profoundly different.
Unlike traditional talk therapy, NARM® doesn’t just revisit the past—it focuses on the here and now, exploring how old survival strategies are still shaping your present experience. It works relationally, which means healing unfolds within a safe, supportive connection, rather than through analysis alone. NARM® is less about fixing and more about uncovering—the hidden ways trauma disconnects us from our authentic self—and gently restoring that connection.
Through this process, clients often experience greater clarity, emotional regulation, and freedom from long-standing patterns. Instead of simply coping, NARM® helps people reconnect with their inner vitality and the ability to live fully. It’s not about re-living the pain of the past—it’s about reclaiming the life that’s possible now.
How to Identify and Change Relationship Patterns
Have you ever wondered why the same frustrations keep showing up in your relationships—whether with a partner, family member, or even a colleague? These recurring experiences aren’t random; they’re often rooted in unconscious patterns formed early in life.
Have you ever wondered why the same frustrations keep showing up in your relationships—whether with a partner, family member, or even a colleague? These recurring experiences aren’t random; they’re often rooted in unconscious patterns formed early in life.
The first step to changing these patterns is noticing them. Pay attention to the situations where you feel stuck or reactive. Do you tend to withdraw when conflict arises? Do you find yourself seeking approval at the expense of your own needs? These repetitive responses are signals of deeper survival strategies developed long ago.
Changing patterns begins with awareness and compassion, not judgment. When we bring curiosity to these moments, we create space to choose something different. This is where therapy, especially NARM®, can be life-changing—because it provides a safe relationship to explore these dynamics and gently experiment with new ways of relating.
Over time, what once felt automatic can shift. You may find yourself setting healthier boundaries, communicating more openly, or feeling less triggered. Healing is not about being “perfect” in relationships—it’s about creating the freedom to respond with more authenticity and connection.
Breaking the Cycle of Generational Trauma
Many of the challenges we face in our lives don’t begin with us. Patterns of disconnection, emotional pain, and survival strategies often stretch back through generations. This is the essence of generational trauma—the invisible inheritance of wounds carried forward in families.
Many of the challenges we face in our lives don’t begin with us. Patterns of disconnection, emotional pain, and survival strategies often stretch back through generations. This is the essence of generational trauma—the invisible inheritance of wounds carried forward in families.
Breaking the cycle starts with awareness. You may notice how your struggles resemble those of your parents or grandparents—whether it’s patterns of silence, anger, self-sacrifice, or unresolved grief. These patterns aren’t signs of weakness; they are survival strategies that helped previous generations endure.
The good news is that cycles can shift. By choosing to engage in healing, you create the possibility of something new—not only for yourself but also for future generations. Therapy becomes a way of honoring the past while no longer being bound by it.
At Heart Minding Therapy, we hold the belief that by tending to your own healing, you ripple change outward. As you reconnect with yourself, you model new ways of relating, opening the door to healthier, more loving relationships—for you, your family, and the generations yet to come.